Dear Abby,
My brother is having a hard time with drugs and alcohol. He came home 3 weeks consecutively stoned, which he complemented with bouts of drunkenness. He is having a hard time right now in life, and I think some advice is in line. I am currently the only one in my family that can talk sense into him, and I am out of ideas. What the heck can I do?

Dear Anonymous,

Since you are the only one that can talk to him, use that to your advantage. Try to talk sense into him about the drugs and alcohol. Don’t shame him about his drug use, but find out the underlying problem of why he is resorting to drugs. Support him and try to see what you can do to reduce his drug use or help him stop his usage completely.If he doesn’t listen or doesn’t seem to care, try to take a different approach and figure out how to get through to him.

Dear Abby,

My friend is going through a rough time right now. She is taking it out on me and I don’t know what to do. Please help me.

Dear Anonymous,

If your friend is going through something in their personal life, the best thing to do is to be there for them and help them with whatever you can to make it easier for them but make sure not to pressure them. Let them know that you are there for them without making them tell you what they don’t want to. If they keep taking it out on you, pull them to the side and tell them how you feel. Say that you understand that they’re going through a tough time but it isn’t fair to take it out on you. They will either understand or become more angry and if they get more angry maybe give them some space. Best of luck and I hope your friend gets out of this rough patch soon.

Dear Abby,

My friend keeps stealing my lunch and then leaves the trash all over the quad. I don’t want to keep cleaning up after her. Do you have any advice?

Dear Anonymous,

It’s great to hear that you are worried about cleaning up trash and taking initiative. At the expense of losing your lunch isn’t a good trade though. Tell your friend to ask for food instead of taking it. You bought and packed your lunch with the intention of eating it and that is what your gonna do with it. If she doesn’t seem to have enough money for lunch or doesn’t come to school with a lunch at all, ask her about it. If she has food and continues to leave trash, tell her that she can clean up after herself and that it isn’t your job.

Dear Abby,
Why do guys pretend to like girls more than friends when they only want them for their bodies?

Dear Anonymous,

At this age, most guys seem to be only focused on one thing. If you feel a certain way about someone and they are only going for you because of how you look, that isn’t ok. There is more to you than just your looks and they should be trying to learn more about you instead of dwelling only on your outer cover. If they don’t feel the same way, then move on. Boys will be boys and girls will be girls all you can do is focus on the ones that are worried about you and your needs not the ones that are focused on themselves and their needs.

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